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Know When to Fold ‘Em


You might have difficulty knowing when to follow Kenny Rogers’s advice. Julius Caesar said, “Experience is the teacher of all things!” I would have to agree with him! I have been pressed (to the nth degree) this school year, and I have not understood it all. Despite how it looked or felt, I had to remember that with promotion comes new, challenging experiences!

After serving in numerous capacities as an educator, I accepted a new administrative position. I did not like being an assistant principal, but I love my job as Dean of Students! I just didn’t understand having the additional responsibilities: SBLC Chairperson, Newsletter Editor, Student Council Sponsor, and scheduling!

I also feared tackling the tremendous job of being the Testing Coordinator again after doing it 10 years ago! I had to be reminded: It’s not about anyone else; it’s about me! Luke 12:48 has become one of my favorite scriptures. It is what has helped me to press on! Despite my reluctance to perform additional duties, I have grown by leaps and bounds!

In addition, this experience has taught me so much (about the job, about people, and about myself)! Not only that, I was chosen as “Employee of the Month” for March. Hallelujah! My situation reminds me a little of Jason Kidd, who struggled as a new coach in the NBA this season. His team was losing terribly, and rumors of his firing were rampant!

The Nets leaders could have given up on him, but they chose to stick with him! Not only has Kidd been selected as “Coach of the Month” several times this season, but his team also earned a playoff berth! That did not happen until he gave up on some things/people to help his team. I hope this post will help you realize when to hold on and when to give up!

Here are three things to give up:

1. Fear of failure: A lot of people would be more successful, but they are paralyzed with fear. So, they remain where they are in life. The status quo fits their comfort zone. If we want to grow, we must give up the fear of failure.

2. Archaic beliefs: Times and situations change; so, we must constantly reevaluate what and why we are doing things. When things no longer work, it is time to give up that practice or procedure. Progress awaits!

3. Unproductive relationships: People come into our lives for several reasons. It may be time to move on if love and respect are gone. When they no longer uplift you or teach you, their season in your life might be over. Some people are not worth holding onto because they are blocking you from your ultimate blessing!

What is one thing you need to give up? Please comment.

Entrepreneur of the Month-June (Series 2 of 4)


Fred Stewart was born on December 14th to a teenage mother in Canton, Mississippi. As a result, his grandmother and great-grandmother were very influential in raising him. They had a piano in their house, and he remembered hearing his mother play it. After he didn’t see anyone else playing it, he would get on it and “bang around on the keys.” Those early days may have provided a musical foundation. When he was 12-years-old, he learned how to play the drums. He began traveling with a quartet named, The Canton Southernaires.

The group let him grow and develop his talent until he was called upon to play for his church’s male choir at New Bethel Missionary Baptist Church. At 17-years-old, Fred learned how to play the keyboard and began to play for several churches/groups. Although he is an entrepreneur, he currently plays for The Word Full Gospel Baptist Church in Jackson, Mississippi. He said, “I love playing! God blessed me; so, I will bless Him by giving back to Him.” He added that his early upbringing had a lot to do with the path that he has chosen because it introduced him to the world of music.

He also attributes his success to the important role that his coaches played. He said, “My coaches gave me structure at a time that I began to rebel against authority. I grew up without a father; so, it was very important for me to have strong male influences.” He added that he was very strong and very aggressive as a kid. Football was a great sport for him to express that aggression in a structured and legal manner. His coaches cared about his grades and his behavior (on and off the field). In addition, his coaches taught him the importance of building a firm foundation.

That firm foundation prepared him for a bright future. In 2003, Fred graduated from Northwest Rankin High School. Upon graduation, he enrolled at Mississippi State University and majored in political science. He began working at Grey Matter Music Studio during his sophomore year at MSU. After gaining experience as an audio engineer and session musician, he left Grey Matter in the summer of 2005. Fred worked on various projects for the remainder of 2005 under the name of “Smash Hit Productions.” Next week, you will learn more about Fred Stewart’s different business endeavors.

What do you think about the positive effects that his relatives, the quartet, his coaches, and/or his churches have had on Mr. Fred Stewart’s career? Please comment.