Archive for July 2016

Video of the Week: Stand up! Vote together!

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A Look In The Mirror

by Selena Richardson

That’s all it takes to change the world. Take a long hard look in the mirror and really notice who you are.

We’re all screaming for peace right now – not just world peace – but peace in our cities, in our workplaces, in our homes and in our minds. There has to be a better way to end this madness.

We need a new way of doing things. Yet we seem to be stuck in outdated modes of thought that have not been working. For if they did, we wouldn’t be in the predicaments we are in now. The past will keep repeating itself until we make a conscious choice to go in a new direction.

Going in a new direction begins inside of you, of me, and of us as individuals. Until we change as individuals, only then can the world change.

One of my favorite quotes is from Mahatma Gandhi – ‘You must be the change you want to see in the world.’ So to have world peace we have to look in the mirror. Take a look and try to find the peace you’re searching for in your heart.

If you can’t find it ask yourself why. It’s not missing – it’s been there with you all along waiting for you to begin your search within. Peace isn’t hard to find at all. You just have to dig from underneath all of the rubble – fear and anger. Once you push the fear and anger to the side peace will be in plain view.

When you find the peace in your heart you start to exude it. It becomes infectious. Joy soon follows and a sense of calm is not too far behind. All of this from one good look in the mirror. One hard look at who you really are. That’s all it takes to get the ball rolling.

And it’s easy to pass it on. Remind your loved ones to find their peace within. They’ll know it can be done because they would have seen the transformation in you. Be a walking example of peace and watch how it spreads.

When others come to you full of fear and anger remember the peace within yourself and gently remind them that no matter how bad it gets it will eventually work itself out for the best.

We get what we dwell upon so if we keep our thoughts based on fear and anger that’s what we’ll continue to get. Instead let’s focus on peace – peace within ourselves and let these thoughts multiply. Remember, be the change you want to see – so be peaceful within your heart and watch your world begin to mirror that.

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Selena Richardson believes in following your dreams and creating the life you want. To receive more articles like this and a free ebook, subscribe to Creative Possibilities by sending a blank email to mailto:subscribe@creationjourneys.com or visit the site: http://www.creationjourneys.com

Photo of the Week: ESSA Information

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Video of the Week: FLOTUS

I love our First Lady, and this video makes me remember fun times! She will surely be missed when she leaves the White House!

Career Success – 5 Ways to Give Yourself the Best Chance of Succeeding at Change

by Linda M. Lopeke

Change, like death and taxes, is one of lifes certainties. Sometimes change is imposed on us; other times we are in the drivers seat. You will be promoted more quickly when you prove your ability to initiate and adapt to change.

Regardless of how and where change originates, there are 5 things you control which make it easier to embrace and that stack the deck in your favor to succeed at change. All require watching your language (and bosses respond well when you do).

1. Speak Specifics

When setting goals relating to change, vague is not in vogue. Always be specific. Be definitive. Be concrete. Ambivalence attacks the belief you can achieve your goal and sucks the energy right out of your desire to persist. You must train yourself to ban phrases like Im trying to do x and Im thinking of doing y. Replace them with Im doing x instead. Be exact about what and when. Im getting my black belt in Lean Six Sigma this May creates much more personal power than Im thinking of doing some more work on Lean Six Sigma.

2. Ditch Denial

Ditch denial of responsibility. Forget fancy talk; keep it simple. Dont put control of events outside of yourself. Use present tense, active voice and indicative mood for greater power. Compare Id like to get it done to Nikes famous example Just do it. You experience greater feelings of mastery and enhance personal effectiveness when you eliminate excuses for evading or reducing your responsibility.

3. Nix Negativity

Nix negative statements. No exceptions! They automatically limit you. Youll start to believe them and instantly hinder your progress. Turn all self-limiting, self-defeating I cant statements into positive ones simply by changing the semantics. I cant becomes I choose to or I havent yet but and Its too late becomes Theres still time to. Reversing negative talk immediately expands your possibilities.

4. Package the Past

Put all previous negative habits and self-defeating behaviors into the past with the phrase I used to be. Let all your ideas of self that arent serving you well go. Dont hang onto them needlessly. Expressing them only in the past tense instantly categorizes them as things that have changed, are changing, or can change. As you think and say so you are.

5. Pitch the Present

Pitch all positive attributes and habits in present tense even if you havent fully mastered them or arent consistently applying them yet. This creates a demand to be congruent by living up to who you say you are and how you see yourselfyou will not become the person you want to be if you are constantly telling yourself Im not this or I cant be or do that. Feel the difference between the person who says I always find a way and the one who always says theres nothing I can do.

Change does not have to be hard. Make it easier on yourself starting today!

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Career advancement expert and professional mentor Linda M. Lopeke is a leading authority on how to succeed on the 21st century workplace and the creator of SMARTSTART Mentoring Programs: Success-to-go for people working @ the speed of life!

Photo of the Week: Heat Exhaustion vs. Heat Stroke

Click here to read more about an expected heat dome (severe heat) for the week of July 18, 2016.

Video of the Week: Have Courage, Be Fearless

Nurture Yourself by Giving and Receiving

by Helene Rothschild

Did you ever resist a friend’s offer to treat you for an event, movie, meal, etc.? I did. Many years ago, my girlfriend and I were sitting at the table and reading the menu of a fine restaurant. When Denise mentioned that she was treating. I smiled and said, “No you are not.” The persevering accountant smiled back and replied, “Are you going to deprive me of the gift of giving?” I was speechless for a few seconds. I had never thought about it that way. “That is brilliant!” I exclaimed.

From then on, I never again declined an offer for being treated, as long as there were no expectations. The giving I am referring to is unconditional. Denise enjoyed the good feelings that came with giving to others. I knew and felt that there were no conditions attached.

Some people won’t allow themselves to receive because they do not feel worthy. The truth is that we are all worthy to receive no matter what we did or said in the past. I suggest that you graciously accept other people’s unconditional offerings by expressing your gratitude. Then you give them the gift of giving and yourself the gift of receiving.

Do you enjoy giving to others? Are you resisting this pleasurable act because you are concerned that if you give they will feel obligated to you? I suggest that you offer unconditionally and if they resist you can smile and say, “Are you going to deprive me of the gift of giving?”

Balancing giving and receiving are ways to nurture yourself and reduce your level of stress. It is also a sign of higher self-esteem. You may give to someone and receive from another. Look for ways to give unconditionally, with no expectations, and it will come back to you. Allow yourself to receive and “fill up your basket” so that you can keep giving. Then you can be happier and healthier, and improve your relationships with everyone, including friends, relatives, and your children and loving partner.

The following are 34 suggestions of how to nurture yourself by giving and receiving.

Put a check next to the things you want to do.

I am unconditionally receiving by asking someone to:

___1. serve me breakfast in bed.

___2. give me a massage.

___3. be my chauffeur for a period of time.

___4. work with me on a project (hobby, chore, etc.).

___5. make all the plans for a date and surprise me.

___6. take pictures of me as I pose.

___7. feed me.

___ 8. wash my hair or back.

___ 9. call me and say something nice on my answering machine.

___ 10. sing or dance with me.

___ 11. take me away for a day or a weekend.

___ 12. tell me what they like about me.

___ 13. help me find something that I need or want.

___ 14. listen to my problem and offer me suggestions.

___ 15. take a walk, hike, or bike ride with me.

___ 16. pick up a DVD or video and watch it with me.

___ 17. help me cook something special.

I am giving unconditionally by:

___ 1. sending a nice card or letter to someone.

___ 2. telling people what I appreciate about them.

___ 3. giving a present (for no specific reason).

___ 4. bringing or sending flowers to someone.

___ 5. treating someone to a meal and/or a show.

___ 6. paying the toll for the car behind me.

___ 7. sending money to charity.

___ 8. volunteering my time.

___ 9. becoming a Big Sister or Big Brother.

___ 10. being friendly to someone who is lonely.

___ 11. inviting a lonely person to my party.

___ 12. calling someone from my past.

___ 13. giving a massage.

___ 14. serving someone breakfast in bed.

___ 15. doing a good deed.

___ 16. leaving a kind message on my answering machine.

___ 17. calling someone and leaving a complimentary message on their machine.

Now that you have some ideas of how you can give and receive unconditionally, include them in your daily schedule. Congratulate yourself for being open to nurturing yourself by giving and receiving!

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Copyright 2007 by Helene Rothschild, MS, MA, MFT, a Marriage, Family Therapist, intuitive counselor, speaker, and author. Her newest book is, “ALL YOU NEED IS HART!”. She offers phone sessions, teleclasses, books, e-books, MP3 audios, tapes, posters, independent studies, and a free newsletter. http://www.lovetopeace.com, 1-888-639-6390.

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Video of the Week: But If Not

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