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Five Steps To Success In Everything You Do

by: Ineke Van Lint

If you follow these 5 steps, no doubt you will get everything you want!

1. What you need first is to have a strong desire. A desire like a fire! Not like a little flame you have to stir to get some heat going. No, you need a strong desire, you must really want to have what you long for! If you want something badly, but you didn’t get it until now, it is your desire was not strong enough! You must really feel the desire to have it in your bones, in your flesh, in your heart. The desire is the starting point, because without passion nothing can happen.

2. Now you need to set goals. Why? To know where to go! Without goals your desire will get you nowhere and you will turn around in circles like a dog who runs after his own tail. A goal gives you a reason, a purpose. The word goal means to GO ALl the way to get there! Your goal is your direction where your desire will take you. If you’re able to see with your mind’s eye what you want, you will have it. So the more details you see, the more concrete is your mental image, the more likely you will get exactly what you long for! Goals get your energy running. Goals generate the necessary activity to bring you towards the realization of your dream. A good goal is a statement of what you want, in a positive, clear, concrete way and with emotion (remember the fire! Without emotion, without fire, no outcome!). A goal should be written down, to give it more energy, and should be stated in the present time. You write your goal down as if you got it already. And start to act as if you were already there!

3. You must believe in yourself. You must really be conscious of the fact that you are worth to have what you desire and that you are able to get it, that you got everything you need to realize your dream. Yes you can! Maybe you do not know for now how to get there, but believe in the fact that you will learn step by step how to do it and that you will be guided on your way by coïncidences and syncronicity.

4. A strong desire, a clear positive goal, a strong believe in yourself, what else does it need to make your dreams come true? Positive thinking! The most beautiful dream, the strongest desire and the clearest goal will bring you nowhere if you destroy yourself with a negative belief system. If you have this lousy habit of seeing everything rather black than white, of fearing the worst, of expecting bad things to happen, this mindset will bring you what you ask for : black, fear, bad. A positive mindset lifts you up to the level of universal creation and the universe will conspire with you to give you what you long for.

5. Consistency. Yes, it is easy to start things. It is easy to quit. But it takes consistency to stay on your road. Did you ever taste the freedom which lies in the fact that, after years and years of practicing the same thing, you became an expert in something? With your eyes closed you can answer any question on the subject and produce almost any result you want? You are an expert now because you did the same thing hundreds of times, over and over again. And now you know! What a freedom! Consistency, not giving up, always going on in the same direction, this brings you freedom at last. Why? Because you don’t need to think and to search anymore on your subject. It became a habit and you have space free in your mind to learn new more demanding stuff. Stay on your road, go on and on, every step will take you to more freedom, happiness and mastery of your life!

These are the five crucial steps to succeed in whatever you want.

Copyright 2006 Ineke Van Lint

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Ineke Van Lint

Written by Ineke. My main goal is to make your energy and excitement flowing again and to make you create a life filled with enthusiasm, by passing you my energy, experience and tools so you can find your passion and your reason for living and realize your dreams and yourself. Go to

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Improve Listening Skills: 3 Simple Tips To Listen Effectively For Better Communication

by: Michael Lee

There’s a big difference between listening and hearing. Hearing is just letting sound pass through your ears. Listening, on the other hand, requires you to understand what you are hearing.

Unfortunately, people have grown indifferent to conversations, letting words slip by without really understanding what they mean. I think it’s time people start learning ways to improve their listening skills again, don’t you think?

Having good listening skills comes with a lot of benefits. For one, it helps you handle any situation with ease. You might be surprised at what you can deduce based on the words a person uses. And another, people appreciate it when they see that you are really listening to what they have to say. Here are some of the ways to improve your listening skills.

Tip # 1 To Improve Listening Skills: Stay Focused.

Don’t let your mind wander when another person is speaking to you. Keep your eyes on the person talking to prevent your concentration from drifting off. Remember that every word counts.

Even when the topic is boring, pretend you’re interested. That way, you won’t be easily distracted. I sometimes find myself in situations wherein the speaker is less than lively.

One particular example is of a convention I went to a few years ago. One of the speakers was an old man who was talking about past successful activities of a certain organization. I normally don’t stick around during such boring opening remarks, but I needed to be there for an article I was writing.

Instead of tuning him out, I told myself that I was really interested in X organization. That way, I was able to focus all my energy into listening and understanding what he was trying to say.

Tip # 2 To Improve Listening Skills: Don’t Interrupt.

Don’t interrupt a person especially when he/she is still talking. Aside from being rude, interrupting breaks the flow of the whole conversation.

If you have a question, wait until that person has finished talking. You never know, but your answer might come up in the next five minutes of the conversation. Besides, it’s easier to improve your listening skills when you’re not interrupting somebody every ten seconds.

Tip # 3 To Improve Listening Skills: Stop Stereotyping.

Don’t box a person into a stereotype. Doing so will only distract you from what he/she is saying. Your mind will already have created an opinion about the said person and that will greatly affect your listening skills.

Not only will you be distracted from a good part of the conversation, you will also develop an unhealthy bias towards the person or his/her message.

If you want to improve your listening skills, always keep an open mind. If you find it difficult not to cast stereotypes, pretend that this is the first time you’re hearing about it.

When it comes down to it, trying to improve your listening skills is about respect. It’s respect for the person who is talking and respect for his/her actual message. It’s also about clear communication. You can communicate much better if you know how to listen effectively. I hope these tips have helped you get a better ear for words.

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The Question of Loyalty

by: Rachelle Disbennett-Lee, PhD

Loyalty seems like a quality that’s becoming increasingly harder to find, whether it’s employee loyalty to a company, consumer loyalty to a product or loyalty among family and friends. Although loyalty seems to be fading, it isn’t gone; many people still feel a sense of loyalty to the people, country and organizations in their lives. The important thing to know about loyalty is that trust is the cornerstone of loyalty.

Loyalty is a symbiotic relationship based on mutual benefit. It is very difficult to receive loyalty when loyalty is not given. According to Dr. Paul T. P. Wong, “Loyalty is born out of a reciprocal relationship and mutual trust. It is difficult to remain loyal, when loyalty is not reciprocated. It would be difficult to continue a relationship after the betrayal of a trusted friend.” Without loyalty it would be challenging for any relationship to survive long-term. Loyalty is the foundation of all healthy, trustworthy and long-lasting relationships.

For years I thought commitment was one of my core values. It is important for me to do what I say I will do, keep my word and stand by the people in my life. But I have lately been re-examining my sense of commitment and I now realize that what I really value is loyalty. What is important isn’t just my commitment to others but, also, theirs to me. I expect people to keep their word, be trustworthy and stand by me. I expect loyalty, of which commitment is a part, but loyalty is a much deeper quality and goes both ways. A former friend became former due to her lack of loyalty. She had a nasty habit of gossiping about me and telling others everything I told her. The final act was when we were at a party, and she began berating me in front of others. In my value structure, friends do not gossip about one another, nor do they exploit or misuse their loyalty.

Loyalty, it seems to me, is very delicate. It can takes years to build, but only minutes to destroy. To create loyalty, one must be willing to be loyal. Although there is risk in being loyal, there is a much greater risk in not being willing to extend loyalty. Without being a loyal person, one’s chances of finding others who demonstrate loyalty are slim. According to Dr. Wong, “The audacious quest for true human worth cannot end without finding authentic loyalty. Blessed are those who have discovered it. Life is worth living when there are trustworthy friends and larger causes deserving our loyalty.”

About The Author

Coach Rachelle Disbennett-Lee, PhD, is a Certified Master Coach specializing in working with business owners and professionals in being more profitable and productive while staying sane and balanced. Coach Lee is the publisher of the award winning e-zine, 365 Days of Coaching. Her first book, 365 Days of Coaching: Because Life Happens Every Day (Universal Publisher, 2004) was named a finalist for Best Book 2004 by and has a five star rating on Visit Coach Lee at her websites and True Direction, Inc. Copyright

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Shhh…How About a Little Quiet Time?

by: Kevin Eikenberry

I often say that our world is very different than it once was. And when I do people often shake their heads knowingly – I suppose that statement conjures a variety of ideas based on how old they are and from what vantage point they compare today with the past.

As our world continues to change, I believe there are some things getting lost that need to be re-found. The good news is many of these things can be re-discovered, and we have that power completely in our hands.

One thing we are losing is quiet.

We don’t make room for quiet in our lives. When we are in the car, the radio is on. When we are walking or riding a bike or mowing our lawns or waiting for an airplane (add your own favorite activity here), we are listening to an iPod or something similar. When we are at home, or in many public places, the television is on. When we are working, the sound is turned up on our computers so we can hear the funny email, podcast, audio message from the CEO, or radio program on the Web.

These are all intentional activities and none of them include the ambient noise of traffic, other people and so much more.

And while we have all this noise around us, instinctively we know that quiet is a good thing.

We value the pause when a speaker gives us a chance to soak in his or her points. We enjoy the brief respite of quiet from a noisy conference. We enjoy a retreat to a quiet park or forest. While we know quiet is valuable and useful, we don’t always take advantage of that knowledge – we don’t choose quiet often enough.

However, in order for us to choose quiet, we must first choose some other things. We must choose to slow down. We must choose to stop multi-tasking. We must choose to be introspective. We must choose to spend time by ourselves. And all of these choices come before the choice for quiet – they are required prerequisites.

Think about it, how much time do you spend in quiet each day? While I haven’t done a formal survey, I’ll bet for the typical person, it is time measured in minutes – not even closely approaching an hour.

Ways to Use Our Quiet

Once you’ve made the choice to turn off the TV or radio, to take the earphones out of your ears, or to (gasp!) not fill that last open hour on your calendar with one more meeting, you’ve got to choose how to use your quiet time.

Rather than prescribing a specific thing you should do with that time, let me suggest a smorgasbord of ideas for you to consider. As you read the menu, pick the one or two you feel most drawn to, and start with those.

–Do stretching exercises.
–Clear your mind.
–Review your goals and your progress towards them.
–Visualize reaching your biggest goal.
–Think about your day – reflect on the happenings and the lessons that can be learned.
–Mentally preview tomorrow – planning and visualizing great success.
–Review material from a book or training session.
–Practice deep breathing.
–Think of creative solutions to a challenge or problem you are facing.
–Count your blessings.
–Recall pleasant memories.
–In school our teachers said “Shhh” when they wanted us to be quiet and pay attention. I encourage you to tell yourself “Shhh” – to make time for quiet, to give yourself a chance to focus, to connect and to reflect.

It’s time for me to be quiet and to give you a chance to do the same.

About The Author

Kevin Eikenberry is a leadership expert and the Chief Potential Officer of The Kevin Eikenberry Group, a learning consulting company that helps Clients reach their potential through a variety of training, consulting and speaking services. To receive your free special report on Unleashing Your Potential go to or call us at (317) 387-1424 or 888.LEARNER.

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