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Archive for February 2015
by: Gerri D Smith
“Your capacity to be creatively alive in virtually all life circumstances will depend in large part upon the kind of attitude you choose for yourself.”- Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, Author/Lecturer
In almost every part of daily living, there are obstacles that prevent you from accomplishing your goals. Whether the obstacles are in running a business or in handling a personal crisis, the objective is the same. You have to get above it, over it, under it, or around the obstacle.
Whenever you are faced with an obstacle, learn to see it for what it is. Think of how you can remove it, or make it harmless and not so important. By making the obstacle weaker and less important, you make yourself and your business more stronger.
FIVE WAYS YOU CAN FACE OBSTACLES AND TURN THEM INTO BLESSINGS
Never dwell on the cause of the obstacle. Rise above it and change the way you respond to it. It only has as much power as you’re willing to give it.
Check your attitude. Know that you have the ability to control the outcome, and/or to choose the answer that’s right for you.
Think of an alternative. If one answer doesn’t work, or if it doesn’t feel right, try another way to get to the best solution.
Realize that your view of the obstacle is what may determine how much impact it has on your life.
Think about what you were doing just before the obstacle happened. Don’t make excuses to yourself. Turn the obstacle into a positive motivator. Then find a way to move toward your goal.
FIVE OBSTACLES THAT CAN INFLUENCE YOUR LIFE AND BUSINESS
*** FEAR OF FAILURE. Do you think of all the reasons not to pursue your goals because you might fail? What if you make a wrong choice? What happens when something doesn’t work out? These can be mind numbing experiences. Ask yourself if your fear keeps you from doing your best, or if you might lose a client or friend because of it.
*** GUILT. No act, either big or small should make another person feel guilty. When you give your best, you have no reason to feel guilty. When you trust your feelings and are responsible for your actions, you’ll have no reason to feel guilty.
*** CRITICISM. The Golden Rule prevails here. When you do (criticize) unto others, it (criticism) will be done unto you. If you can’t take criticism, don’t criticize others. Set boundaries between you and your critics. Try not to return criticism with criticism. You will be the better person.
*** DEFEAT. This obstacle is all in your attitude. The more stressed or overwhelmed you are with handling challenges, the more defeated you may feel. Let your faith work for you and know that with your skills you’ll get it right. At times, you may need to connect with a higher source of power. If your spirituality or belief is strong you will overcome any challenge.
*** CONFLICT. Dealing with difficult situations, and difficult people can be quite intimidating. What do you do when you find yourself in a frustrating situation? Are you passive? Aggressive? Or, assertive? After you’ve identified the specific issue, take a deep breathe, then act or speak with your honest feelings and get closure on the situation. For example: if you need to confront someone, be specific about what happened and how it made you feel. Then get your point across without hanging on to your anger. Look for a positive outcome–one that will benefit everyone involved.
Obstacles are only temporary misfortunes. The next time you experience an obstacle, whether it’s fear, guilt, defeat, criticism, or a conflict in your life or business, remember that you have a choice to turn any obstacle into a blessing. Take a look at the people you interact with. Are they fair? Positive and upbeat? Respectful? Pleasant to be around? Are you the same? If so, then your obstacles will be at a minimum.
Think of other obstacles that may hold you back from succeeding. Recognize them. When you encounter an unmovable obstacle, confront it and learn from it so that the next time you’ll be stronger and quicker to get to a favorable result. Be positive. Be respectful. Be powerful. Be pleasant. You always have a choice!
About The Author
Gerri D Smith is publisher and host of multiple Gateways to inspiration, motivation, and information for individuals, small business owners, and entrepreneurs. Gerri’s internet business resource offers ways for you to unlock the doors to personal success. To help you reach more of your successful and financial goals, become one of the exclusive subscribers to her Free Monthly Newsletter. For details, visit: http://www.distinctivebusinesswomen.com Or, send blank email with: “Subscribe to DBW’s Newsletter-11AC” in Subject Box and mail to: firstname.lastname@example.org.
by: Fatimah Musa
Ju was physically abused as a child. She lived with a mother who was diagnosed with post depression and a father who was a wife abuser.
Her parent divorced and left six of them with her mother. She left school at 15 and went to work waiting tables to help her mother feed them all.
At 18 she met and fell in love and was married soon after. Then she found out that her husband drank too much, slept around with other women, a wife abuser and took drugs.
She was divorced at age 20 with two children. Her husband took their son away and handed him to his friend. He was sent to jail for an offence with the law.
Her husband’s friend did not want to hand the boy over to her and demanded money in exchange. The child had scars on his chest due to burnt from cigarette butts. That was what he got for crying out for food.
She finally managed to get her son back. She left her children in her mother’s care while she left to find a job.
At 28 she had an accident. Her dress caught fire and she suffered 2nd degree burns.
With that her self-esteem and self-confidence went down the pit. She was depressed. She attempted suicides several times and was given psychiatric treatments.
After a major surgery and lots of counseling and support from relatives and friends, she started her life all over again even with one partly deformed hand and fingers.
Her anxiety was all the time still present. It was tougher to find a job. She felt like a disabled person.
The one thing that kept her going in spite of her misfortune was her will to be able to feed herself and sent money for her children. She did not want to ask for financial support.
At 38 she was diagnosed with cancer of the cervix. That was a big blow to her. She went through another depression episode.
“Why me?” was the question she repeatedly asked. Of course when she asked that question, she got all the wrong answers. She felt more depressed. She blamed her father, her mother and everyone for what brought her sufferings. Worst, she blamed herself.
She agreed to go for the treatments, chemotherapy and cesium, because she did not want to go through the pains.
This was when she took the time to look within her. She thought that she might not live long enough so she decided to reconnect with her children. It was not easy especially with her son who had gone through his own childhood trauma.
She turned to her family for moral support and she turned to God.
Now eight years later, she is still alive. Waking up and able to breathe for another day is a gift for her.
She has two grandchildren whom she adores and that give her much joy. She takes some jobs every now and then when her health permits and rests when she needs it.
Her question has changed. She now asks what is it she could do to get more out of what is left?
Things happen and happen to us all. Life does not play favorites. Everyone has a story to tell.
It is how we handle it that matters. We do not have to wait until a major catastrophe interrupts us to think of what we should do with our lives.
It is up to us to make or break us. No one can tell our brain and mind what to do. No one can tell us what to think of and what to put inside our head.
We have the power to think what we want to think. To forget past hurts or to linger with them.
We can decide, plan and take action on what we want to have, do or be. At least when the universe intervenes, we know that we have done our best.
About The Author
Fatimah Musa provides information, tips and quotes to help people become aware that any future growth starts with their personal growth. You can visit Fatimah at http://www.about-personal-growth.com.
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by: Scott F Paradis
One of the most beautiful expressions of love ever committed to words is found in Paul’s first epistle to the Corinthians: Love is patient, love is kind… it is not self-seeking… but rejoices in the truth… love never fails.
Love, that feeling of unity and euphoria, is at once mystical and mystifying. It is the very force that sustains our souls, yet it remains, for many, perhaps for most, an elusive concept.
Failing to see the truth, lost and alone – the best most hope for, is to experience but a small taste, an incomplete glimpse, a partial breath of a transcendent, awe-inspiring reality. For love truly is all we need. But, sure we know a better way, we resist the forces that gently cajole us toward our divine inheritance. Ego fixes blame and demands accountability, so we, in error, cling to our own self-righteous lie.
We search desperately for love in all the wrong places. Believing love is out there, we seek to store up favor so that we might be worthy of having love bestowed upon us. Vainly, arrogantly, mistakenly, we yearn for love with all our being while we fail to empower the surest path to experience that which we desire.
The search for love can end in an instant. You come to experience true love by losing your self – by giving up ego. Love is found in the moment you drop the facade of ego and embrace, even fleetingly, the unfailing truth – all are one.
By growing through a thousand humble steps, rejecting ego and allowing truth, you mature into the majesty that is love. By learning, by sharing and by giving without consideration of ego you unify the whole.
Perfect love is the byproduct of advancing the interests of another. Every meeting of two hearts, every family situation, every work setting, every social circumstance, every chance encounter is an opportunity to create, express and reveal love.
It is in giving that you receive. It is in expressing love that you reap the harvest and celebrate the reunion of once divided souls. Love is an unselfish pursuit that benefits the self like nothing else. Love is found through expressing love – by acting for the good of another – not despite the self. True love is an expression for the other’s good, the expresser’s good – the ultimate good.
Love is offered and received in simple gestures. Open yourself to spirit and truth by listening to the still small voice. Assume responsibility for all aspects of your life, including love and humbly act on the intentions of spirit. Accept the circumstances you encounter as moving you ever forward toward the goal that spirit intends for you: to realize peace and joy, fulfilled in perfect love.
Love is gentle, love is kind. Love is unwavering in its pursuit of truth. While faith is the acceptance of truth unseen and hope is knowing a future of promise, love binds faith and hope in action. You are in a dynamic world, a reality of constant change and limitless opportunity. Choose to express love, the obligation of your spirit, and in so doing you find your way home.
Copyright (c) 2011 Scott F Paradis
About The Author
Scott F. Paradis, author of “Promise and Potential: A Life of Wisdom, Courage, Strength and Will” http://www.promiseandpotential.com
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