Please comment if you agree with Vernon Howard: “A truly strong person does not need the approval of others any more than a lion needs the approval of sheep.” If you still want additional help with this, read “9 Reasons Why You Should No Longer Care About People’s Approval.”
Archive for October 2013
Welcome to my new series, “Man of Honor”! I plan to alternate this series with my “Entrepreneur of the Month,” “Trailblazer of the Month,” and “Trendsetter of the Month” series. The media is fraught with negative images that might lead viewers to believe that many of the men among us are not worthy of honor! I will continue to counter these stereotypes with positive portrayals.
The featured men of honor will include pastors as well as leaders of other organizations, and I hope that they will inspire you. Pastor Marcus Carruthers is the first “Man of Honor”! Marcus Carruthers is the senior pastor at The Dwelling Place Church in Fayetteville, Arkansas. Prior to going into ministry full time, he worked at several Fortune 500 companies. He also owned a software company with his wife, Dionne.
Not only is Marcus Carruthers recognized as an awesome pastor, be he is also recognized throughout his community as an amazing leader. He has been listed on the Northwest Arkansas Business Journal’s “State of Arkansas 40 under 40” list, and he was named the “Washington County Volunteer of the Year.” I appreciate Pastor Marcus Carruthers for accepting my invitation to be the “Man of Honor” for October 2013.
Next week, you will learn who has contributed to Pastor Carruthers’s success. What do you think of this series? Please comment.
I remember it like it was yesterday: I waited until the last minute (as in one day before) to decide to go to my junior prom! Finding a date wasn’t an issue, but securing a dress was impossible! You would think that I had learned my lesson from two years before that! After waiting until the last minute to decide on attending a big musical out of town, my mother refused to let me go! Why? I had not completed a paper that was due the next day!
I figured she would trust that I could complete the paper in the wee hours of the morning. Why not? I had written papers at the last minute many times prior to that! I suppose she’d had enough, and she knew that I’d be too tired to finish that paper! I was so sad when my siblings left; you’d think I made up my mind to change! However, I still struggle with procrastination. I want to change, but I’ve discovered that others struggle with this issue.
According to an article in Psychology Today, “Everyone procrastinates sometimes, but 20 percent of people chronically avoid difficult tasks and deliberately look for distractions—which, unfortunately, are increasingly available.” If you are a procrastinator, you can relate to this! You’re probably reading when you should be doing something else! While the Internet is an excellent tool, I can attest to it being a procrastinator’s Achilles heel.
It’s too easy to keep deferring to something else when anything else is pressing. Why not go ahead and get things done first or make a decision? It’s not in our makeup despite others trying to motivate us by calling us “too nonchalant, lazy, or trifling.” Here’s the secret of procrastination: Many procrastinators are perfectionists, attempting to figure out the perfect solution before tackling the job! We are not shirkers or dimwits!
If you are not a procrastinator, patience is the key. You mean well with all of your advice: “plan earlier, stop being irresponsible, or accept fewer assignments.” Think about it: Many procrastinators consistently get it done! For some reason, we work better under pressure! Efforts to plan earlier often leave us with blank slates…until the last minute! If you live with (or must work with) a procrastinator, please learn the secret of procrastination today.
Do you think procrastination is a personal flaw? Please comment.