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The Power of Your Words

by William Frank Diedrich

Most of us underestimate the power of our words. We sometimes miss how our words set a tone. A few words can make someone’s day, or shatter it. Words can inspire someone to buy, or to go away without buying. Our words can move someone to do their best work, or to work against us. Your spoken words serve either to build up or to tear down.

They serve to empower and inspire, or to disempower and hurt. Words are either life affirming or destructive. For this reason we should choose our words carefully. “The word is the most powerful tool you have as a human…like a sword it has two edges, your word can create the most beautiful dream, or your word can destroy everything around you.” (The Four Agreements, Don Miquel Ruiz)

When you are talking to someone ask yourself this question: “Who am I being and what is the impact of my words on the people around me?” The power of your words lies in the intention behind them. Is it your intention to create a resolution or to be right? Do you intend to help the organization accomplish its mission or to satisfy the need to take someone down? We communicate best when we are clear about who we are and what we intend. This kind of clarity prevents us from saying words that are harmful to ourselves and others. It may prevent us from engaging in harmful gossip and complaining.

Gossip is usually destructive. It is often a careless use of our words. We just aren’t thinking about how we are affecting others. Sometimes gossip is mean spirited and intended to cause hurt. Whether gossip is careless or intentional, it causes pain. We may be hoping for a little humor or self justification, but the results of gossip are anger, suspicion, embarrassment, and fear. These creations of gossip negatively affect morale, service, and productivity. You cannot both care about someone and gossip about them. If you think back to the last time you either heard or offered gossip, it probably didn’t make you feel good. Gossip disempowers us.

Similar to gossip is chronic complaining. Complaining about people and situations makes us feel and look powerless. Managers who complain in front of their employees lose credibility as leaders. Chronic complaining leads us into a dead end street where there is nothing to be done. We become victims who are powerless to change anything. While venting frustrations to a trusted friend can be helpful in releasing negative feelings, complaining to everyone tends to reinforce negative feelings. Like gossip, chronic complaining disempowers us.

Our power to do harm is exceeded only by our power to do good. A simple, sincere apology (given without expectation of return) can heal a relationship. An uplifting word at the right moment can change a life, launch a career, or convince someone to go beyond perceived limitations. By consciously looking for evidence of greatness in others, and by using our words to tell them, we help others to build confidence. When we sincerely speak well of others we uplift ourselves.

There is great power in making the commitment to keeping our words as positive and life affirming as we are able. As an affirming presence our influence grows. We feel better about ourselves. Constant negative speech imprisons us and prevents us from finding joy and success. Developing the habit of speaking well of self and others frees us to enjoy life more. We become a blessing to ourselves and to others.

Our spoken words originate from our thoughts. The best way to increase the positive power of our spoken words is to clean up our thinking. We must become willing to think well of ourselves. Constant self criticism needs to become unacceptable. We free ourselves to think and speak well of others by thinking well of ourselves.

Consider practicing the following:

• Affirm life in your thoughts and your words. (To affirm life is to build up, to nurture, to support, and to bless)

• Refuse to gossip. Commit to saying only words that are uplifting or helpful to others.

• Refuse to listen to gossip. Compassionately tell others it is beneath them to gossip.

• Refuse to indulge in complaining about another person.

• Refuse to dwell on self critical thoughts. Learn from mistakes and move on.

• Intentionally look for positive qualities to think about yourself. Make a list often.

• Intentionally look for positive qualities in others. Tell them.

• Don’t take the words of others personally. Their words are more about them than about you. Let go of your grudges and your hurts and wish others well. This practice will make you happier.

• Do not allow negative emotion to control you. Accept it. Be willing to let it go. Stop feeding it with negative words. Choose words that will refocus you on who you are and what you really want.

Gossip and complaining are distractions and a misuse of your energy. Decide what you really want and apply your energy to it. As you become more life affirming in your thoughts and words you will experience more joy and success, and your sense of well-being will affect others. More people will trust you and want to help you. Your life will change. Affirm life with your thoughts and words and you will find that your organization, your family, your community, and you will benefit greatly.

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

William Frank Diedrich is a keynote speaker and the author of The Road Home: The Journey Beyond the Spiritual Quick Fix, 30 Days to Prosperity: A Workbook for Well Being, and Beyond Blaming: Unleashing Power and Passion in People and Organizations. William also offers a free online newsletter, Transformation Times. To learn more about Bill, his books, and his services, go to http://www.transformativepress.com or to http://noblaming.com

Travel and Its Benefits

by Malek Moqaddam

Why do we need to travel? Why it is getting increasingly important that we, once in a while, change our environment and travel outside our country? Why it is sometimes a necessity for our emotional health to travel?

Travel’s importance is underestimated by many people. Travel is not only fun, entertaining and enjoyable. With our current lifestyles and work conditions, travel has become more than an option. It is more than just having fun. As Augustine of Hippo said ” The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page.”
 During travel you are able to do things you usually don’t do. When travelling, you go outdoor and be away from computers, and TVs and you are likely to be mixing with different people and cultures. People travel for different reasons. Some travel for fun and to have a good time. Others travel as a hobby. Travel can be an escape away from the hectic pace of life in big cities. Some travel just to change and move, as Robert Louis Stevenson said “I travel not to go anywhere, but to go. I travel for travel’s sake”. Some people like to learn from different cultures, as Mark Twain said ” Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness.” Travel gives the person the opportunity to discover, to explore and to feel the sense of adventure.

Many people around the world are discovering the benefits of travel to the extent that the tourism industry is growing worldwide and has become one of the major profitable sectors in world economies. No wonder that travel is growing year by year. According to figures published by the World Travel & Tourism Council WTTC, world tourism industry grew by 3% in 2012, and contributed $6.6 trillion to world GDP by direct and indirect impact. In 2012, for the first time in history, international tourist arrivals reached 1.035 billion.

Here are the main benefits of travel:

1-Stress Relief: As you travel miles away from your environment, you are able to be free from your responsibilities and then begin to relax and rest. Not only you rest your body, but also your mind. Knowing that you can wake up anytime without an alarm clock, without the need to be physically available at work, will take off a lot of mental stress. Here, you can sense freedom. Stress relief is a major reason for travel. The moment you think you are heading for Hawaii or Bali, you get immediate sensation of excitement and stress-free feelings. It is this mental peace that makes travel a very good stress-relief. Sometimes travel can be stressful if your trip has a lot of sightseeing, or meeting a lot of people. But travel stress is different from home stress because it is positive stress. Travel stress does not associate with it anxiety or worry.

Travel is a great way to connect with nature which is very helpful for your relaxation, mentally or physically. Nature is a stimulus for activating your right brain. Right brain domination is one major cause for stress-relief. Also, during travel there is no sense of urgency which is usually associated with home behavior. Change of scenery is by itself helpful for relieving stress.

2-Physical Benefits: You move more when travelling. You walk more frequently whether riding the subway or exploring the streets of a historic city or even visiting a museum. By swimming or laying on the beach, you get a high dosage of vitamin D from the sun, something that is very useful for your bones and also for your positive emotions. Outdoor activities associated with travel can lower risk of diabetes, lead to weight loss and reduce cholesterol level. Some medical experts recommend traveling once every six months for cardiovascular health and for the heart. Some studies show that travel even improves better sleep.

3-Cultural Benefits: Sometimes we need to be anonymous. Sometimes we want to be free from any responsibility. Travel allows you to exercise both while meeting new people and experience new cultures. You will know how different people accomplish their goals with different ways. You will learn new ideas that you have never thought of before.

4-Relationship Benefits: Traveling with a companion and sharing same experiences and situations together will enhance your mutual bond. 93% of youth ages 8-18 consider travel as “a quality time” spent with their parents. 3 in 4 parents say that family vacations are very helpful for the family. Meeting new persons in new locations can result in long term relationship for many.

5-Happiness: Many persons associate happiness with travel. More than 50% of adults buy souvenirs just to remember their vacations. Most travelers store photos of their destinations as a way of remembering those trips that are about tasting new food, beautiful sights, historic monuments, and new music. This is one reason that travel can be addictive, especially if have enough time & money. It has become a hobby for thousands of people around the world.

Remember, you can travel and have fun with a limited budget. Plan carefully and spend wisely. Read and learn saving tips.

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How to Relieve Stress with Mental Toughness

by: Michael Licenblat

Knowing how to relieve stress at work is more than picking the right stress management techniques – a lot comes down to your mental toughness.

Do people tend to push your ‘hot buttons’, leaving you feeling frustrated and intense? Do the mannerisms of your clients’, or their poor communication skills annoy you? Do demanding or abrupt customers make you feel stressed and uptight?

Then you need to get mentally tough!

Mental toughness is an essential stress relief skill required for becoming resilient to the pressures and stresses in work and life.

Just feeling frustrated, uptight or upset because of what someone has said or done will create tension and stress in your body.

Ronald Glaser, director of Ohio State University’s Institute for Behavioural Medicine Research said, “It’s clear that stressors produce abnormal changes in the immune system”. Glaser and his wife, Janice Kiecolt-Glaser, a clinical psychologist also at Ohio State University, studied the mind-body connection and found that chronic stress and psychological stress can impede wounds from healing, may impair the effectiveness of vaccines and can weaken the immune system of caregivers [1]. In this physical state, you may feel easily tired, emotionally sensitive, and your body becomes prone to strains, spasms and pain.

There is, however, a more positive effect created when changing the way you respond to potentially stressful situations. Carol Ryff, a psychology professor at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, says, “There is a science that is emerging that says a positive attitude isn’t just a state of mind. It also has linkages to what’s going on in the brain and in the body.” [1]

You may not realise it, but the way in which you react to the people you work or do business with, is creating the tension and stress in your body.

Stress doesn’t happen to you – it happens because of you.
You may be unwittingly increasing the stress in your own life.

So, what can you do about it?…

Change what you focus on.

Toughen your mind by disciplining it to focus on solutions rather than problems. An undisciplined mind dwells on problems and churns over those negative aspects of people that bother you. This simply creates more tension in your body. Studies have found that ‘pain is a psychologically constructed experience’ [2].

The key of how to relieve stress is not simply finding the ‘ideal stress management technique’.
You need to change your focus. You create or reduce pain depending on what you focus on or what you believe to be true.

Focus on what you want – instead of what you don’t want.

-> Focus your mind and energy on how problems can be solved, instead of getting upset because someone disagrees with you.

-> Focus your mind on the task at hand, instead of other people’s opinions of you.

-> Focus your mind on all the good you can achieve, instead of beating yourself up over one or two mistakes.

-> Focus your mind on your good nature and sense of humour, instead of harsh words from a demanding client.

-> Focus your mind on the insignificance of your problems when you consider that over 150,000 people have lost their lives, and millions have been left homeless.

-> Worry less about people’s bad moods, poor communication and outbursts. Get the message and get on with it. You don’t need the stress.

For the rest of your days, there will be people who say things you don’t like, will disagree with you opinion and disapprove of your choices. If you let that resistance determine what you do, you’ll never be free of stress and pressure.

Looking for ways on how to relieve stress sometimes makes you ignore the reasons that are closest to home – your own thoughts and actions. Finding stress relief is not as simple as picking up a stress management book and trying out all the stress management techniques. Instead, become mindful of what you focus on and watch your stress shift.

I teach people how to become resilient to pressure and stress for many reasons, but one important reason is that in the past eight years I have lost several special people in my life due to tragic circumstances. If one positive lesson could come out of that it’s realising that life is too short to waste time getting drained from stress because of what or how other people communicate with you.

I wish for you to enjoy work, family and life – not endure it. Don’t live for the weekends – live today…because there is no guarantee of what tomorrow will bring.

REFERENCES:
[1] http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2004-10-12-mind-body_x.htm
[2] http://msnbc.msn.com/id/4313263/

About The Author

Michael Licenblat B.Sc.(Psych) is a Resilience Expert who helps people in business bounce back fast from pressure, stress and burnout in their work and life. He is the author of ‘Turn Stress into Energy & Enthusiasm’.

To download his special report on the ‘Seven ways to prevent yourself becoming Stressed-Out, Over-Worked, and Run-Down’, visit: http://www.StressManagementSuccess.com

Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life. Five simple ways to bring more peace and harmony to your life!

by: Marla Sloane

When you change your thoughts, you change your life. The fastest way to achieve peace and harmony is to change your thinking. In order to change your outer world you must first change your inner world. Your thoughts dictate your behavior, and when you change your thought patterns, you will be changing your behavioral patterns as well. Altering your behavior will change the course of your life. Here are 5 simple ways to achieve peace and harmony.

1. Observe Your Internal Chatter. If you find your thoughts are negative or limiting, stop and replace those thoughts with positive ones. Your internal chatter is a good forecast to the direction your life is headed. Meditation is a good way to clear that negative chatter, and assist you in changing your thought process.

2. Say What You Mean, and Mean What You Say. Healthy communication is a key element in keeping peace and harmony in your life. Good communication eliminates being misunderstood, and prevents stressful situations. Saying what you mean not only gives you a sense of peace, you also earn the respect from others when they know you are true to your word.

3. Focus on the Positive Not the Negative. Turn negative situations into positive ones. Everything happens for a purpose and a reason. Instead of complaining, and feeling wounded after a negative situation, stop and think about how you can change it into a positive one. Remember, you attract what you dwell on; positive attracts positive, and negativity attracts negativity. If your thoughts are negative and victimizing, you will attract exactly that into your life. What are your thoughts attracting?

4. Practice Guided Visualization. This technique involves sitting comfortably, and listening to a tape or an instructor who guides you through a relaxing scenario. The setting is calm, tranquil, and peaceful allowing your mind and body to connect. You can create what you visualize, and with the aid of your subconscious mind, the possibilities are limitless!

5. Get Organized. Organizing your surroundings, and managing your time wisely helps give you a clear head for making wise choices. Your choices are dependent on your thoughts that precede it. How can you make a wise decision if your thoughts are cluttered and unorganized? Start organizing your life now, and see how fast you can change your life.

Thoughts are powerful, after all, everything ever created started with a thought. You are creating your tomorrow with the thoughts you have today. Taking control of your thoughts will give you a sense of stability, and with that stability brings peace and harmony.

About The Author

Marla Sloane Ph.D. is a successful author and speaker. Her Daily Positive Affirmations subscribers have reached world-wide proportions, and her book, “The Masks We Wear and How to Live Without Them” is at the heart of her teleclasses; Live Your Best Life. Marla has also produced, Trilogy of Meditations, for your Mind, Body, and Spirit, which is distributed nationwide, and in Europe. You can visit her web site at: www.marlasloane.com.

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Success: The Slight-Edge Formula

by: Daniel Sitter

Self-improvement; A great deal has been written on the subject, but does any anyone really know how to successfully implement a creative and manageable plan for its accomplishment? The concept involves goal setting, planning, time management as well as patience, faith, understanding and real desire. Too many times, people approach self improvement haphazardly, unfocused and unclear as to exactly what they want. This is not a paper specifically concerning goal-setting, that will be addressed another time in greater detail, but rather a blueprint for the implementation of the plan you generate during your own self-improvement goal setting exercise.

Many times, we set out on a self-improvement course of action with literally no idea of how to proceed, with only a loose idea of what we really want to accomplish. Basically, at this point, it’s just a dream of a better day. This is actually not what you want; after all, you expect success. You must believe success is possible and probable. Be expectant. Be confident.

Before you begin, sit down and write out your plan of action. Clearly write your goal, your timeframe, identify the specific steps to accomplish during the journey and the obstacles that you expect to encounter along the way. Yes, write this all down. Review it each evening before bed and again when you awaken in the morning. Keep your plan with you at all times and read it aloud to yourself several times during the day. This will imbed it deeply into your subconscious mind where it will steer you in the direction of your goal.

Jeff Olson talks about the Slight-Edge Formula for success. Imagine an incremental system where you consciously plan to improve just ¼% each day, or even each week. Can you do that? Sure you can. Everybody can. It has been said that “you can eat an elephant if you do it one bite at a time.” The same idea holds true with this concept. The premise is to experience minute improvements on a consistent basis that tend to compound over time like interest. A ¼% improvement in any skill each day is a 1-¾% improvement each week! A 7% improvement each month! An 84% improvement in just 1 year! It’s actually higher than that because all of your advances are compounding at an exponential rate! Are you beginning to see the potential of this compounding power at work within you?

The Slight Edge Formula for success is the answer. Do a little each day and reap the rewards you desire over time, while consistently moving in the direction of your goal. You will always get out in proportion to what you put in. Apply yourself. It pays big dividends!

Most people never begin. They may talk a big talk, but they fail to act. Only a few of those who do take action tend to persist over time. Are you one of the few who are determined to make your life different? Do you want changes badly enough? Then begin now. Persist. Make no excuses.

“What’s in it for me” or WIIFM is your mantra. What is it that’s in it for you that will drive you to pursue the goals that you have defined? Identify this and you have taken the first step toward the success you desire. This can potentially change your life? Nothing will happen until you first decide to get started. You have to make things happen. Do not wait for things to miraculously happen. They will not.

Choose to employ the Slight-Edge Formula into your everyday life events. It is simple, easy to implement and it really works.

Copyright 2005 Daniel Sitter

About The Author

Daniel Sitter, author of the highly anticipated book, Superior Selling Skills and the popular, award-winning e-book, Learning For Profit, has extensive experience in sales, training, marketing and personal development over a 25 year career. http://www.learningforprofit.com.

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The Happiness Habit

by: Graham Smith

‘Most people are about as happy as they make up their mind to be.’ Abraham Lincoln

I’m happy. My Email software has developed a frustrating problem, it’s been raining for days, the car has sprung a leak which will be very expensive to fix – and I’m still happy.

How can I tell?

How can anyone know when they’re happy? What does happiness mean? Predictably, the term means different things to different people at different times in their lives. For myself, I like the definition ‘An enduring feeling of contentment and capability’ – a sense that life is good on the whole, and that you can deal with whatever happens.

What Do You Really Want?

Since Aristotle, many thinkers have concluded that everything we do is ultimately aimed at achieving happiness. We save for a holiday, long for an impressive car, have another drink, get to know popular people, strive for success – all because we think it will make us happy. A friend once told me, while I was hoping to sign a recording contract, ‘Careful what you wish for – you may get it’. I was offered the contract, signed it and almost immediately it became a disaster. Soon after, I was spending a lot of effort on getting released from it. We tend to confuse what we actually want with things we think will get it for us – and we can learn from our experience.

One sure way to increase your happiness quotient is by making sure the things you do every day fit in with the things you find important – your values. I know successful businessmen who neglect their families by working sixty-hour weeks. When we discuss their careers I usually learn that all their effort is dedicated to giving their families the very best: a private education, a lavish lifestyle. I know wives of such men who feel lonely and unhappy and wish for a simpler, closer way of living. Whoever said ‘Time is money’ was wrong – you can lose money and make it again. Those businessmen often find ways of creating a different balance between work and home, often by learning to let go of things they had felt the need to control and learning how to trust others more and share the load.

Happiness is something you do.

More recently, during training for my work, I realised a vital point about happiness: it isn’t a thing or a place or something that happens to us, it’s an activity. Now I think of it in that way I feel better. I have a lot of choice in what I do, so the chances are that I can do more happiness – hey, it works for me.

Author Andrew Matthews writes on happiness: ‘It is like maintaining a nice home – you’ve got to hang on to your treasures and throw out the garbage.’

Finding Flow

In his book ‘Finding Flow’, Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi describes how he and his team found ways of tracking just how happy people are at different times of day. The key is ‘Flow’ – a combination of high challenge and high skill. People experience flow in different ways, but some things are common to all. At such times “what we feel, what we wish and what we think are in harmony. These moments are what I have called flow experiences”.. athletes refer to it as being “in the zone”. For me, flow is when I lose track of time because I’m so absorbed in what I’m doing.

Swept Away

We tend to feel some flow when working, travelling, talking, socialising and having sex. Our strongest experiences of flow tend to be our hobbies and sports, or when responding to a great movie or performance (not passively watching, but on the edge of our seats) or being swept away by music or an exciting football match. The opposite of flow would be deep in an apathetic trance, like the Royle family, gaping at the TV. Flow goes with active, rather than passive enjoyment. It involves stretching ourselves by operating near the limits of our skill. We do flow activities because we like doing them, rather than simply because we imagine they will bring us some benefit. In the process we may experience frustration, pain or expense, yet we still want to take part.

The Happiness Habit

The more I work with people to help them achieve what they want, the more I believe that attention is the key. We all know the story of the optimist and the pessimist looking at the same glass which contains water up to the halfway mark. To the optimist, the glass is half-full, to the pessimist it’s half empty. The optimist sees the doughnut; the pessimist sees the hole. One looks for what’s wrong, the other for what’s right. What are they actually doing that’s different from each other?

When you concentrate on something repeatedly, nerve cells in your brain link up to form networks that act a bit like electrical circuits, each designed to do a particular thing. The thing each circuit does is an unconscious programme, better known as a habit. People normally form habits through repetition. The first time you go somewhere you need to look for street names, maybe read a map. When you’re used to going there you can do it without giving it any attention. The fact is, we spend most of our lives doing our habits. This is fine. As long as your habits are in harmony with your values, you tend to be pretty happy.

New Habits for Old

If your values and habits work against each other they can prevent you from growing as a person, stop you from being able to relax or cause you to dislike yourself. So is this just too bad, or can you really change? Well, it depends on how much of your attention you’re prepared to commit to changing. You see, you form habits by shining the light of your attention on doing something until you can do it automatically. That leaves your attention free for the next learning. When you want to change that habit, you need to give your attention, first to unlearning, then to replacing it. (In my experience this is most effectively and quickly done in trance.) Much of my work is helping people to be in charge of the part of the brain that is the switchbox for their attention so that they can focus on things that bring them flow.

The formula is very simple: whatever you put your attention on fills your life.

Choosing a Vision

This fact goes way beyond the subject of happiness. Top athletes use techniques of mental rehearsal to prepare themselves for success. It’s no accident that the term Vision is so prominent in current thinking. When top performers are studied closely, to find out what the vital difference is, they always create vivid images in their minds of what they want. It seems that the more detailed and desirable the images are the more powerful the effect. Naturally, they still have to do all the preparation and hard work but those factors alone don’t guarantee success, it’s the combination of all the elements that makes an outstanding performer.

Little Voices In My Head

When it comes to happiness, high achievement may not be as important as the way we choose to focus on certain aspects of our lives. Some people run a commentary in their mind’s ear. Whatever they do, they criticise themselves. “there you go again” typical! Whatever you do it goes wrong, “you fool”

Some people act as if they could read minds. They usually don’t like what they guess people are thinking about them. “Did you see the way she looked at you? You know what that means don’t you? She thinks you’re stupid” or “I wish I hadn’t come: they’re sneering at me because I’m not as successful”… Those little voices are auditory habits that were originally intended to help you, but have now become unhelpful. You can probably stop doing them by ignoring the words and turning the sound of the voice into something absurd – like Donald Duck, or whoever makes you laugh. People I have worked with have used the voices of Eddie Izzard, Harry Hill, Frankie Howerd, Victoria Wood and many others. Have a go and see what happens to how you feel.

Don’t worry – Be Happy

Broadly speaking, anxiety is imagining what you don’t want and then responding in your body as if it were happening in the present. Feeling down might involve focusing on past unhappiness and feeling as if it was still happening or only hearing criticism, never praise. These are simplifications, but they reveal the kinds of processes that underly these unhappy conditions. In each case, the individual is following habits of mind, often learnt early in life when we are inexperienced and impressionable. The good news is that these are only habits and habits can be changed. In many cases all you need to do is remember to do the behaviour you want for a new habit every day for three weeks continuously and it will become automatic. Some habits are easier to change than others. For losing the more persistent bad habits there are specialist techniques to help you succeed.

Greater Expectations

I don’t mean to give the impression that everyone needs to go around smiling constantly. Tragedies and disappointments happen and it’s important to let yourself feel what you feel at the time. Covering up your emotions can lead to bigger problems later on. What I mean is, just as you expect a cut to stop bleeding and heal after a while, it’s reasonable to expect to move on after grieving or hurting. Nobody needs to put up with persistent unhappiness these days. We have learned more about how our minds work in the last thirty years than in the whole of history and the news is encouraging.

Accepting Your Own Power

I have known a great many people who have changed their minds about who they are and what they can reasonably expect from life. A woman I know decided that she could do more than work at menial tasks for low wages by accepting that she could learn new things. When she told her boss why she was leaving, the boss said ‘You’ll never amount to anything’. She signed up for a training course and found she was right – she could learn. She enjoyed it so much that she learned how to train others. Now she earns well over double her previous income organising courses and trainers and encouraging other people to believe in themselves. She altered the way she saw herself – from ‘I won’t expect much so I won’t be disappointed’ to ‘I have the right to choose how I live my life and how I respond to the world’. She isn’t pretending, rather she has accepted her own power and chosen to wake up to the possibilities life offers.

As Henry Ford said: ‘Whether you think you can or you think you can’t – you’re right’.

Now, about those New Year’s resolutions: All the best for the year ahead.

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Begin the New Year Right – Get Organized!

by: Kerry Flinders

Here we are, facing a brand new year filled with endless possibilities. I don’t know if you’re the type of person who makes New Year’s Resolutions or not, but I have a resolution for you that you should put on your list, whether you have a list or not.

Get Organized!

Being organized is a terrific feeling. Being organized helps you in so many ways.

When your spaces are organized you can find things easier, eliminating needless stress from looking for items you can’t find. Also, when your spaces are organized you spend less time cleaning, since everything is in its perfect place.

When your schedule and time are organized you can find more time for yourself, for your kids and for your Life.

Being organized helps me to take on my daily life, filled with family, work and social activities easily. Being organized helps me to not only keep up with my life, but it allows me to enjoy it more.

That’s why I feel that even if you are not the type of person who makes New Year’s Resolutions you should definitely make “Get Organized” something you add to your schedule this year.

How do you get from one of the most unorganized people you know to being a super organized individual? Here are some tips:

1. Make a “master list” of all the areas in your home, life, and schedule that need organizing help.

2. Put your list into some kind of order listing the most important things that need to get organized asap first and the things you are just hoping to get organized, but aren’t that important last.

3. Take out your planner (electronic, paper, calendar, anything) and start adding all of your items from your “master list” to your schedule. If you schedule all the items right into your planner you have a much higher probability of actually doing them.

4. Dedicate the first several months of this New Year to your plans on getting organized. It is nearly impossible to get organized over night. Be realistic with your time frame and realize that this might take you several months to finish.

5. Each time you cross off another item from your schedule that pertained to your “master list” pat yourself on the back and feel good about your efforts.

Remember that being organized is an ongoing process. Not just for you, but for everyone, including myself. Once you organize an area of your home, or your office, or your time you have to be aware that there are forces at work all around you that will try and throw your organization out of whack. Someone will come along and misplace an item you organized. Sometimes that someone is you.

So once you get yourself organized be sure that you put some effort in to staying organized. If you don’t put in the effort, you will once again be faced with an unorganized life before you even realize it.

So seize this New Year by the horns and make this the year you Get Organized!

Copyright 2006 Kerry Flinders

About The Author

Kerry Flinders is the owner of Personal Organizing Solutions located in Southern California. Kerry and her company are dedicated to helping others organize their clutter and their lives, eliminating unnecessary stress and helping the client to find more time in their day for the things they love. Kerry is the author of the book “Organizing With NO Budget”. You can sign up for Kerry’s F~REE Organizing Newsletter, or request her F~REE Organizing Tip-Pak by visiting their website at [http://www.personalorganizingsolutions.com].